Run, do not walk to the bookstore and get your teens a copy of this book. 5: A Teen’s Guide to the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and Paige Drygas is a definite must-read for every teen. Written by the author of the other best-selling “Love Languages” books, this one shares the information in ways that are more relatable to teens.
If you have read any of his other books, the basic information in this one will be familiar. As far as I can tell, he doesn’t change the love languages from book to book. What he did do though, is use examples that are more common in the lives of teens.
There are a few things I really appreciated about this book. (He may have mentioned them in his others, but it’s been awhile since I have read them.) First, I loved that he just didn’t stop with the five languages, but helped teens sort through a few special issues they may have with them. He covers how to discover their own language accurately, family issues, handling anger and my particular favorite – the idea of “romantic” love being a choice, too. That last chapter alone could be an important concept for preventing future divorces.
Secondly, I love that he addresses the “anti” love languages within each language. He talks about common inappropriate behaviors when dealing with other people and how they communicate our lack of love (real or not) for that person. Since this is a Christian book, the importance of teaching teens how to show everyone love (or in this case not showing them a perceived lack of love) is crucial.
Finally, I really appreciate that he took the effort to explain to teens that while everyone may have a preferred love language, we all also appreciate every love language. It’s so easy to not say “thank you” or give presents to a friend or family member, because his/her love language is “time”. Chapman does a great job of explaining that just because someone may feel most loved when you spend time with them, they can still feel hurt and unloved if you don’t say you love them or give them presents on birthdays.
I would love to tell you something I didn’t like about this book. Honestly though, it’s just that good. Getting this book in the hands of your favorite teens, can be life-changing for them. It’s an easy read and will help them in their relationships with friends, romantic relationships and even with good ole mom and dad.
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