Have you ever had a nasty boss? Or a mean neighbor? If so, then you know what it is like to try and communicate with or be led by someone who has poor, if not ungodly, communication skills.
As Christians, we should all think of ourselves as leaders. Not in an egotistical – I get to be the boss of you – sort of way. Rather, we should be leaders to help others find God, learn what He wants them to do or help other Christians be more like Him. Often though, when Christians try to lead in these areas, their poor communication skills can do more harm than good.
So why not teach your kids healthy, godly communication skills before they can develop bad habits that hurt others? There’s a fun activity you can do to help them begin thinking about the best ways to lead with our words.
Read your kids the story of the Tower of Babel (Genesis 11:1-9). Pull out some random supplies. Tell your kids they need to build the tallest, strongest tower possible together. The catch is that they cannot speak to each other (or write, etc. hand gestures are fine). Give them enough time so that if they can figure out how to communicate well, they can build a decent sized tower.
In the more likely scenario of increasing frustration, stop the activity before they get too angry with each other. Then ask them to talk about the experience. Share with them the verses in the book of James about controlling our tongues.
With younger children, let them try again with talking. If your materials are odd enough, they will still need to communicate well to succeed. With older children, you can allow them to talk, but first ask them what types of conversations would be most helpful in order to complete the task well. Spend a little more time talking about leadership and communication.
Taking the time to regularly work with your kids on having healthy, encouraging, godly speech will keep them from one day becoming that mean boss, nasty neighbor or more importantly the Christian whose speech keeps others from wanting to learn more about God.