Moms and the Gift of Friendship

Moms and the Gift of Friendship - Parenting Like HannahMoms are almost always surrounded by people. In fact, if you have little ones, you probably don’t even get to go to the bathroom alone. Yet talk to many moms- especially moms with young children – and most will admit they suffer from loneliness.

Our world is full of acquaintances we have convinced ourselves are friends. They are there to chat with while waiting for your kids or online exchanging stories of the fun things their kids are doing. Yet what most of us moms are longing for are those friends who know all of our quirks, but love us anyway. Who love us enough to hold us accountable when we aren’t being who God wants us to be. Who will walk with us down this motherhood path.

I was interested when offered a chance to review The Gift of Friendship: Stories That Celebrate the Beauty of Shared Moments by Dawn Camp. The book contains very short stories written by a variety of moms about friendship. Some I knew were somewhat “famous” in Christian circles and others I don’t know at all. Yet each of their stories rang true.

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Hope for the Discouraged Mom

Hope for the Discouraged Mom- Parenting Like HannahWe’ve all been there. Or at least I have been there. No matter how much time, effort, prayer and love you put into parenting, there are days you feel like a failure. Even if you love being a mother more than anything in the world, there will be days you wish you were the kid again. It doesn’t really matter the cause, because often there isn’t one glaring thing. Sometimes the lack of sleep, having to instruct your child how to do or not do something for the thousandth time or having a house full of sick people just makes you want to crawl up in a little ball and cry.

Only, for some reason, most moms feel like they can’t really cry. The worried reactions from our kids and husband when we do cry just seem to make it feel like we shouldn’t ever let them know we are discouraged. Somehow it feels like a betrayal or that we are saying we don’t love being a wife and mom. Often we are afraid to open up to other adults for fear they will confirm what we currently secretly suspect – we have no earthly clue what we are doing and we could quite possibly be ruining our kids.

Ever wonder why the Bible tells us Jesus went off by himself and prayed so often? I think Jesus knew exactly what it felt like to be a mom. He spent every day nurturing, instructing, healing and even feeding dozens and often thousands of people. Yet, even God’s Son felt the drain emotionally, physically and spiritually (John 4:6, Luke 5:16, etc.) after constantly caring for others. It wasn’t that he didn’t love them or that he didn’t enjoy his ministry, he just needed to recharge.

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Tips for Discipling Your Child

Tips for Discipling Your Child - Parenting Like HannahIn Top Tip for Raising a Mature, Godly Child, I promised to share tips for how to disciple your child. A well discipled child has a much better chance of making more mature, godly choices. As we saw when Jesus discipled his Apostles, there were some mis-steps along the way. One (Judas) even decided to reject everything Jesus had tried to teach him.

There are no guarantees following these tips will make your children perfect or even that they will consistently make godly, mature decisions. Some mis-steps are likely, in part because of their lack of life experience. That is part of the discipling process – teaching, demonstrating and then giving opportunities for guided practice. Guided practice gives your kids a safe place to make those mistakes. A place where a Christian adult is standing by to mentor or offer help when needed. Practice that allows for feedback and correction.

Parents who don’t disciple their kids often find their children are involved in real life scenarios without that extra godly support. Suddenly, these young people are with peers and attempting to make potentially life-changing if not eternity changing decisions without having been prepared. Honestly, it’s surprising more kids and teens don’t end up in over their heads, making poor choices.

So how do you disciple your kids? There are a lot of things you can do, but if you follow the model Jesus set with his Apostles, you will be making a good start.

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Top Tip for Raising a Mature, Godly Child

Top Tip for Raising a Mature Fodly Child- Parenting Like HannahJohn Quincy Adams is a little known American President. Other than being the son of President John Adams, most of us know nothing about him. It’s a shame, because I think the Adam’s knew the secret to raising a mature son. (I can’t speak to how godly he was as historians tend to have little interest in such matters.) Don’t believe me?

By the age of fourteen, John Quincy Adams was traveling around Europe helping a diplomat convince other countries to recognize the newly formed United States. This was after having graduated from college that January. He was fluent in Dutch, French, Greek and Latin. (Not to mention a passing knowledge of other languages.) After his European jaunt, he entered Harvard and graduated from there by the time he was twenty.

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Mom Advice:Godly Wisdom or Meddling?

Mom Advice:Godly Wisdom or Meddling - Parenting Like HannahWhen our daughter was a baby, she was gifted at removing her socks. And shoes. Actually anything on her feet. Give her two seconds and they were gone. For some reason, this bothered women over the age of sixty. You would have thought a barefoot baby…in a stroller…indoors was the definition of child neglect. The lectures I got were unbelievable. I am sure they meant well, but honestly socks on a baby’s feet (or mine either for that matter) were never a high priority.

It is easy to understand why after months of pregnancy and childbirth advice and then well meaning but sometimes strange baby advice, many moms get angry at anyone giving them any advice. The sad thing is there are godly women out there who could make our parenting journey a lot easier and more successful if we would ask for, listen to and take their advice. The question becomes to whose advice should I listen and when is it safe to do my own thing?

There is no absolute answer, but the next time someone gives you parenting advice here are some things to consider before ignoring it:

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