Teaching Kids About Sins and Mistakes

Teaching Kids About Sins and Mistakes - Parenting Like Hannah

If you have ever broken something that was precious to you, you know how horrible a mistake can make you feel. On the other hand, Satan can make sins feel fun and delay consequences until we are in so deep it feels impossible to get out of the mess our sins have created. If our children are going to be faithful Christians, it is so vitally important they understand the difference between sins and mistakes.

So what do our kids need to understand about sin and mistakes?

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What If Christian Marriages Are Different?

What If Christian Marriage Are Different

 

Shaunti Feldhahn is one of my favorite authors dealing with men, women and marriage. What I appreciate about her books is that she doesn’t just give her opinion and back it up with an example from her life. Ms. Feldhahn apparently does a lot of research to make sure her assumptions are correct.

I couldn’t wait to get my hands on her latest effort The Good News About Marriage. With her co-author Tally Whitehead, she went back and looked at the studies  and “facts”which are constantly cited in newspapers, magazines and even sermons. What she found was very exciting.

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Are You in Constant Conflict With Your Child?

Are You in Constant Conflict With Your Child- Parenting Like Hannah

 

I am a card carrying conflict avoider. Don’t get me wrong – I can stand up for myself with the best of them. Conflict just exhausts me though and I try to avoid it until I just can’t stand it any more.

If you find yourself in constant conflict with one of your children, it can wear you out. You may even find yourself almost avoiding that child or having any sort of meaningful conversations just to avoid the inevitable disagreements.

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When Your Kids Make Mistakes

When Kids Make Mistakes - Parenting Like Hannah

Perhaps the hardest thing to accept as a parent is that you will never be the perfect parent and your kids won’t be perfect either. And that’s okay. Sometimes the mistakes we or our children make are just that – silly little mistakes that turn into family stories and legends. At other times, the mistakes actually involve sin and hearts and lives can be broken.

Kathi Lipp was a mom who had children who made some choices that would make any Christian mother cringe. At first she was embarrassed, but quickly realized she was not the only mother who had done the best she could do to dedicate her children to God only to have them make choices that pulled them away from God. She ultimately decided to write the book I Need Some Help Here!: Hope for When Your Kids Don’t Go according to Plan to help other mothers.

The biggest gift Lipp’s book gives moms is the reassurance that they are not alone. Many times it feels safer to present our “perfect” families to our church “family”. Unfortunately, it ends up isolating us from the people who can give us the most support when our children are struggling. I hope Lipp’s book encourages moms to open up to other Christian moms when their kids are making bad choices. The prayers and support from our Christian brothers and sisters can often help.

Within her efforts to encourage, Lipp breaks her advice up into nine areas where our children can struggle. Some involve when our child decides to walk away from God, but a lot of her advice is about children who are just struggling. She covers everything from being different to being ill to being overwhelmed.

Within each chapter, Lipp shares the story of one or more mothers and children who have struggled with the particular issue. The stories she shares are respectful, yet detailed enough to be helpful. She then gives four or five practical things a mother can do when she finds her child (and herself) in the particular situation. Some of her suggestions are what you would expect -prayer, scripture, getting outside help. She also gives reminders of godly principles and a practical tip or two. Lipp is also a strong believer in sharing what “not to do” as much as what “to do” in a given situation.

While I agree that no matter how well we parent, bad things happen and our children can and will still make bad choices. I do differ from her in that I strongly believe there are proactive things you can do to lessen the chances your child will make certain poor choices or end up in certain situations. Her book is more from the “horse is out of the barn” so forgive yourself and do what you can to improve the situation line of thinking. Because of that, I think it is helpful for parents whose children are already in bad situations, but will not help you parent your child away from anything proactively.

If your child is struggling with sin or just from living in a fallen world, I think you will find comfort in this book. You may even discover a few practical suggestions to help you on your journey. Ultimately though, this book can only be the first step in helping you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and find the help you need from God and other Christians.

If your children aren’t struggling at the moment, I think the most important lesson from this book is that many parents are hurting badly. Keep your eyes and ears open for them. Reach out to them and offer them a sympathetic ear. Pray with them. Share this book or its ideas. Mainly, reflect God’s love to them, because ultimately that’s what we all need the most.

 

This book was provided to me for free in exchange for my honest review.

Creating a Bible Corner for Your Family

Creating a Bible Corner for Your Family- Parenting Like Hannah

My ladies small group Bible study saw an idea in one of the books we studied years ago. (I apologize to the author, but we can’t remember where we saw it!) The author suggested creating a special Bible study area in your home (for adults). I think she called it something catchy, but it works no matter what it is called.

This summer, we encouraged the children in my Sunday school class to make a Bible corner in their own houses. We studied the story of Creation and how God resting on the seventh day led to the Sabbath. While Christians worship on the first day of the week, we discussed how it is great for us to copy a few of the habits of the original Sabbath celebration.

You see, Sabbath was a time for people to take some real rest – not veg in front of a television or run around a baseball field. They sat or took short walks and read God’s words. They talked about God’s commands and plans with each other. They prayed to God. They quietly reflected on what God’s Words meant for their lives.

We encouraged the students to take a little time each day for a bit of “Sabbath” rest. Go to the Bible corner in their house and read the Bible, talk about it with their family, pray and even have a little snack while they do it. So what does a Bible corner look like?

In most homes, there is usually a room that is seldom used. It may be a living room or a guest bedroom. Find a comfy chair or a corner of sofa. You may want to add a puffy pillow or a throw if it is cold outside. Have an open Bible that stays right there all of the time. If your children are younger, consider placing a children’s Bible like the NIrV there also. Older children and teens might want a prayer journal and pen or a Bible journal in the corner.

We had our kids design a special snack plate to add a little pizzazz to the corner. We took ceramic plates from the dollar store and had the kids use acrylic paints and paint pens to create a design that reminded them of God, creation and the idea of Sabbath. We placed part of Psalm 119:103 at the top of the plate to remind them God’s words should be as exciting and “sweet” to them as honey would be. Here are a few of their creations in process…

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Be aware your child’s plate will not be dishwasher safe. I tested some of the methods you see online and they probably only work with more expensive materials. I suggest placing another plate on top of this one for actual snacks. If you must wash it, I would be very gentle.

So grab your kids, a couple of Bibles and some other fun things and create a Bible corner in your house. If nothing else, every time you walk by it, you and your family should be reminded of where your focus should be. Who knows, you might improve everyone’s Bible reading habits, too!