Ask almost any mother of daughters about “mean girls” and you will most likely hear a litany of horror stories. The really sad part is it seems to start at younger ages every year. Our first really stereotypical incident happened in fourth grade to our daughter, but there were girls behaving in “mean” ways as early as kindergarten.
Perhaps the scariest part of mean girl behavior is that they are actually intentionally and unintentionally being coached by adults to act in those ways. In fact, in many areas the behaviors are so ingrained in the culture, the mean behavior is considered “smart”. You can even go into many churches and see adult women behaving in mean girl fashion – often without any apparent awareness many of these behaviors are ungodly.
So what should we be teaching our daughters, so we don’t raise more mean girls? There are probably a lot of things you can say and do, but here are some I think are critical: