When Mothering Gets Beyond Tough

When Mothering Gets Beyond Tough - Parenting Like HannahEvery mother has tough days. Some mothers though are walking a mothering journey I can’t begin to understand. Perhaps the father of their children is violent and abusive. Maybe the child they have waited for is born with disabilities so severe, even their life span is shortened. Or their perfectly healthy child is suddenly diagnosed with a life threatening illness.

I can’t even imagine what that is like. Even having watched people walk that road, I can only begin to imagine the pain of those experiences. Although every experience is different, sometimes hearing from someone who has been through traumatic times and come out on the other side, can give you the energy or hope it takes to get out of bed and face what today holds for you. When the person sharing their story understands the support God can provide, I think the sharing could be the most impactful.

I was intrigued when offered the chance to review the book Kelly Tough: Live Courageously by Faith, by Erin and Jill Kelly. It may seem strange to suggest a mom going through a tough time read a book written by the daughter and wife of football great Jim Kelly. Even stranger, once you realize this book is written primarily by the college-aged, single daughter. Yet, that is exactly what I am suggesting.

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Helping Teens Find Their Gifts From God

Helping Teens Find Their Gifts From God - Parenting Like HannahOne of my favorite parts of working with teens is helping them discover the gifts God has given them to serve Him. Unfortunately, many parents tend to fumble a bit in this area. Either they push their child in the direction they think the child should go or they don’t discuss it at all in hopes the child will figure things out in college.

Either way is not necessarily in the best interest of your child. Forcing a child to study and work in a field God has not gifted them to pursue may mean years of frustration and heartache. Neglecting to help your children discover their gifts from God can lead to a lot of wasted money as they change majors or careers multiple times desperately searching for their place in the world.

I was excited to be given a chance to review the latest in the parachute series What Color Is Your Parachute? for Teens, Third Edition: Discover Yourself, Design Your Future, and Plan for Your Dream Job by Carol Christen. This series has been around for decades now, but really helps focus those who have no idea what to do with their lives.

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Postage Stamp Gardens for Serving With Kids

Postage Stamp Gardens for Serving With Kids - Parenting Like HannahGardens are one of the best tools for teaching kids about God. The plants themselves hold lessons from Proverbs, parables and other places in scripture. Working in the garden can help kids practice lots of godly characteristics from patience to “working as if working for the Lord.” The resulting produce can be used to serve others in lots of ways.

In today’s world, gardening is an art many people don’t learn as a child. You may live in an area where you have very little yard or no yard at all. Going online for the answers to your gardening questions can become overwhelming.

I was excited when I was given an opportunity to review a new book The Postage Stamp Vegetable Garden: Grow Tons of Organic Vegetables in Tiny Spaces and Containers by Karen Newcomb. Even though I was raised with a very large one half acre garden in our yard, much has been forgotten over the years of living in inner cities and suburbs. This book fills in any gaps for those who have forgotten things and has everything a true beginner will need to know to succeed.

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Developing Empathy for Other Moms

developing Empathy for Other Moms - Parenting Like HannahBeing a mom is a challenging job. There usually isn’t a training program or quarterly reviews. You may get an occasional complement on how well your children behave, but it’s usually two seconds before they have a melt down in public. On good days, it’s easy enough to convince yourself you are better than average and on your bad days, you probably feel like you belong in some secret mother Hall of Shame.

Sometimes, it helps to step out of your own parenting journey for a bit and walk in another mother’s shoes. It can give you perspective, hope or maybe just the peace of realizing every mother struggles from time to time. Life may provide you opportunities to interact with other moms and hear their stories. For others, your best chance is to read a book written by another mom.

I was interested when given the chance to review Sand in My Sandwich: And Other Motherhood Messes I’m Learning to Love by Sarah Marshall Perry. Perry, a mom of three children has her hands full. From having her own autoimmune disease to raising three children – two of whom have a host of disabilities – to dealing with the serious illnesses of her extended family, Perry has had a motherhood journey that would bring many of us to our knees.

The great thing about Perry’s book is that she is honest about how stressful her life has been. There isn’t an attempt to sugarcoat things or make readers believe that faith and prayer will somehow magically “cure” all of life’s problems. In fact, she reminds readers the “God won’t give you more than you can handle” saying isn’t in the Bible at all, but is a misquote of a totally different concept. Life can give you more than you can handle. The difference is the Christian has hope and strength in God.

If you are struggling in your parenting journey or want to develop more empathy for other mothers, you may appreciate Perry sharing her story. Personally, I was a tad disappointed. I guess I expected more helpful tips or perhaps she was someone who was able to find humor in almost any situation. Although there were some general ideas of faith, strength and humor, the book is more of a recounting of everything that has happened on her journey. While it was interesting, it wasn’t riveting. Her insights, while helpful, didn’t feel particularly insightful or life-changing.

If you are struggling in your parenting journey or want to develop empathy for other moms, this book may do the trick. While I appreciate the courage it took to share her story, I think ultimately Perry might have shared more specific advice or tips to make the book more helpful, but sometimes the best help comes from knowing you’re not alone.

 

This book was given to me for free in exchange for my honest review. An affiliate link is included in the post for your convenience.

 

Teens and Time Management

Teens and Time Management - Parenting Like HannahIf you have watched your child write his first research paper or study for an important exam, you have probably noticed some time management issues. There are so many more interesting and fun things to do than to spend several hours studying or writing weeks before something is due. You may have resorted to constant nagging or cringed as your teen flipped into panic mode at the last minute.

Time management is a secular issue which can also have spiritual consequences. If your teen doesn’t learn how to manage her time well, most likely God is going to be what is eliminated. If you don’t believe me, notice the attendance differential between Sunday morning and week night teen Bible classes. Or ask your frantic teen when was the last time he took time to pray or read his Bible. Even when schools require students to serve others, they are often rushing around at the last minute trying to accumulate their necessary hours.

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