Have you ever over reacted to something your kids did because you were tired and cranky yourself? Or have you ever realized you should have been doing or not doing something in your parenting you know you need to change? Has there ever been a time when you punished your child for something he or she didn’t actually do? What did you do next?
The answer to that last question is often more important than the answers to all of the others combined. Why? Because we all make parenting mistakes. Some of them are more serious than others. It’s what we do when we realize we have erred though that can impact our relationship with our kids – often for years to come.
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There are so many more Christian picture books for children than when my daughter was little. Some look tired and old-fashioned – even though the thoughts may be true. Others are more commercial, but perhaps a bit askew here and there. Rarely, do I find one I am thrilled to have found and suggest to others.
When I Pray For You by Matthew Paul Turner is a new picture book from a Christian perspective. I absolutely love this book on so many levels – it’s almost ridiculous! You know that secular kids book that makes you cry – the one with the grown man cradling his old mother? While the sentiment is laudable, it just misses the real depth possible of a parent’s love for his or her child.
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Did you realize a lava lamp is really about oil and water not mixing well? While the results look interesting in a lamp, when a parent and child don’t get along well, there is a lot of unhappiness. If you have children, there is a fairly decent chance you will have what seems like constant conflict with one of them.
It may feel like no matter what you say, this child gets upset. Or maybe, you have found this child seems to be able to easily and constantly “push every button” you have. You may find most of your time with this child is spent in some sort of conflict. Most likely, you have decided this child is “stubborn” or some other negative adjective.
Continue reading 7 Tips for Parenting the “Stubborn” Child
There was an interesting article in the New York Post this weekend. The thrust of the article was that parents aren’t doing anything positive by occasionally having lunch with their kids at school. Read closely though, and you will notice the main “source” is someone who seems to resent her child constantly bugging her to come have lunch at school with him or her.
The modern parenting narrative has become one in which the parent’s wants and needs always come before the wants and needs of the child. We pretend there are parents who are overly involved in the lives of their children, but the sad truth is the vast majority of kids don’t get any of the things they really need from their parents. Instead parents provide lots of “stuff” and swoop in to “save the day” if Johnny or Susie becomes unhappy for some reason.
Continue reading Christian Parenting: Does Quality or Quantity Time Make the Difference?
Helicopter parents. Tiger moms. Laissez faire parents. Free range parents. It seems like every time you look up, there is some new type of parenting. Most of these end up doing more harm than good for the long term development of kids.
Christian parenting is even more challenging. You are trying to help your kids develop not just appropriate behaviors, but to also have godly hearts. Who knows if the parenting flavor of the month can have any positive impact on spiritual parenting?
Continue reading Are You a Spiritually Engaged Christian Parent?